By Mutryce A Williams
Navigating "Island" Parenting is a submission of insights, quotes, tips and parenting advice that I have gathered over the years as a source of inspiration and as tools to deal with the daily challenges of parenting. This week’s issue: Balance. The hope is that this submission would cause you to reflect on your parenting skills and also make the journey of parenting a bit easier or brighter.
Since becoming a mother, the word balance has taken on an entirely new meaning. I am constantly asking the following questions, “How do I find balance? How do I regain balance? How do I maintain balance? Is there a magic button that I can press in order to realize this thing called balance? When will I attain balance? Does balance even exist?”
I suppose these are the questions that every parent asks his or herself ever so often. Balance seems to be the one thing that so many of us are striving for in our daily lives, yet it seems so elusive. In a perfect world, we would be the best spouse, parent, daughter, son, sibling and friend. In a perfect world we would be a stellar employee or student. In a perfect world we would be the best volunteer. We would have the perfect homes and life would be a ball. In a perfect world everything would go according to plan. There would be no worries, no sacrifices, no conflicts or difficult choices because things would simply be balanced. Balance! Balance! Balance! Having balance would be ideal.
In the past weeks things got off balance. I vowed that I would return to my column when I regained some balance, and then I came across Maxwell Maltz’s quote, “Man maintains his balance, poise, and sense of security only as he is moving forward.” Here is to moving forward! As I try to achieve the ever elusive “balance” I thought that I would share some quotes with you, in the hope that it would assist in putting the art of balance, parenting, relationships, work and life into perspective for you.
Simplify, Let it go,
Make it work, Balance,
Pamper, Live with joy,
Take time, Relax, Refocus,
Live simply, Renew,
Enjoy life, Laugh, Love, Dance,
Giggle, Smile, Simplify.
Quotes on Life and Balance
“Life is available only in the present moment.” Anonymous
“Balance is not better time management, but better boundary management. Balance means making choices and enjoying those choices.” Anonymous
“Sometimes you need to step outside get some air and remind yourself of who you are and who you want to be.” Anonymous
“Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life”. Anonymous
“There is no such thing as Life work balance. It’s all LIFE. Be fully present in life.” Anonymous
“You can have it all… you just can’t have it all at once.” Oprah Winfrey
“Life is a balance of holding on and letting go.” Rumi
“There is no such thing as work life balance. There are work life choices, and you make them, and they have consequences.”Jack Welch
“Balance comes in the moments when you stand up for the life you truly want for yourself by making the choices that align with that.” Anonymous
“If I had to embrace a definition of success, it would be that success is making the best choices that we can… and accepting them.” Sheryl Sandberg
“It always seems impossible until it is done.” Nelson Mandela
“There is no such thing as work life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.” Alain DeBotton
“Life Moves Pretty Fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” Ferris Beuller - Ferris Beuller’s Day Off
“Don’t confuse, having a career, with having a life.” Hillary Rodham Clinton
“I have never met a woman, or man, who stated emphatically, "Yes, I have it all.'" Because no matter what any of us has -- and how grateful we are for what we have -- no one has it all.” Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead
“Work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. The other four balls -- family, health, friends, integrity -- are made of glass. If you drop one of these, it will be irrevocably scuffed, nicked, perhaps even shattered.” Gary Keller, The One Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results
“I am a perfectionist but I know how to live life. When I'm working, it's 100%. When I'm with my friends, I put everything away and enjoy life. When I come home to my kids, it's pure joy and everything's worth it. Every time, I really focus 100 percent on one thing. I've learned how to juggle my life and I feel like now I have the perfect balance.” Monique Lhuillier
“There is no decision that we can make that doesn't come with some sort of balance or sacrifice.” Simon Sinek
Mutryce A. Williams, a native of St Kitts and Nevis is the mother of 4-year-old Daniel and 3-year-old Nicholas. She not only values the many facets of West Indian parenting but also thinks that there is vast room for improvement. A former educator and a child/youth advocate, Mutryce firmly believes that children should not only be seen but heard.. She may be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org