By Mutryce A. Williams
Navigating "Island" Parenting is a submission of quotes, tips and parenting advice that I have gathered over the years as a source of inspiration and as tools to deal with the daily challenges of parenting. It was Alvin Price who said, “Parents need to fill a child’s bucket of self-esteem so high that the rest of the world can’t poke enough holes in it to drain it dry.” This week’s edition is inspired by Mr. Price’s quote as it focuses on building self-esteem and character. The hope is that this submission would cause you to reflect on your own parenting skills, and make the journey of parenting a bit easier or brighter, even if it is for one person.
As parents we are often preoccupied with ensuring that our children are well-fed, that they are clean, healthy, and well educated, but how often do we do a wellness check up to see if their self-esteem is running on full? How often do we do a wellness check up of ourselves to check whether or not we are doing our part in feeding our children a healthy diet of self-esteem; that which would assist in nurturing their spirit or self-worth? This week I have chosen to share with you some of my favourite quotes on self-esteem with the hope that you would not only reflect but also share them with your children.
Each Second We Live in a New and Unique Moment
by Pablo Casals
“Each second we live in a new and unique moment of the universe, a moment that never was before and will never be again. And what do we teach our children in school? We teach them that two and two make four, and that Paris is the capital of France. When will we teach them what they are? We should say to each of them: Do you know what you are? You are a marvel. You are unique. In all of the world there is no other child exactly like you. In the millions of years that have passed there has never been another child like you. And look at your body-what a wonder it is! Your legs, your arms, your cunning fingers, the way they move! You may become Shakespeare, a Michelangelo, a Beethoven. You have the capacity for anything.”
by Walter de la Mare
As long as I live
I shall always be me
My Self-and no other,
Listen to the Mustn’ts
by Shil Silverstein
Listen to the Musn’ts
Listen to the Don’ts
Listen to the Impossibles, and the Won’ts
Listen to the Never Haves
Then listen close to me,
Anything can happen, child,
ANYTHING can be!
Sow an act
by Charles Reade
Sow an act,
and you reap a habit.
Sow a habit,
and you reap a character.
Sow a character,
and you reap a destiny.
Do all the good you can.
by John Wesley
Do all the good you can
By all the means you can
In all the ways you can
In all the places you can
To all the people you can,
As long as ever you can.
Self Esteem Quotes
“You is kind! You is smart! You is important!” The Help
“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who'll decide where to go...” Dr Seuss, Oh, the Places You'll Go!
Why fit in when you were born to stand out?” Dr Seuss
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Eleanor Roosevelt
To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world. Make yourself a blessing to someone. Josephine Billings
What you think of yourself is much more important than what others think of you. Seneca
You must not expect anything from others. It’s you, of yourself, of whom you must ask a lot. Only from oneself has one the right to ask everything and anything. This way it’s up to you-your own choices-what you get from others remain a present, a gift. Albert Schweitzer
"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection." Buddha
"When people believe in themselves they have the first secret of success." Norman Vincent Peale
“The tragedy is that so many people look for self-confidence and self-respect everywhere except within themselves, and so they fail in their search.” Dr Nathaniel Branden
“You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.” Zig Ziglar
“Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the face.” Helen Keller
“Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think.” Benjamin Disraeli
Mutryce A. Williams is a native St Kitts and Nevis whose writings embrace and mirror the West Indian life. She holds a Masters of Politics degree and is a doctoral candidate pursuing studies in Public Policy Administration with a double concentration in Terrorism, Mediation and Peace, and Homeland Security Policy and Coordination. She may be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org