By Neals J. Chitan
It is blood curdling to see the behaviour of our babies! The 21st century teenage life-style with its urban attitudes, dress codes, fashion and behaviour has invaded the minds of our babies.
Neals J. Chitan is the Grenadian-born president of Motiv-8 For Change International -- a Toronto based High Impact Social Skill Agency that is specially dedicated to the social empowerment of individuals, families and communities
I stood frozen as I witnessed the downright rudeness, disrespect and defiance that came from the lips of a beautiful but demonically rude six-year-old girl. There was no immediate antidote, so she was left to finish her anti-social tirade even amidst the attempt by her mom to control this baby. By the end of this episode, her teacher was kicked, her mother was disrespected and another student was hurt. As her energy ran out and she settled down, she was heard uttering the sentiments that she wanted to be a bad girl like her big sister.
It would seem that the level of defiance and rebellion that characterizes these post modern millennia generation older brothers and sisters is seeping its way in some strange “monkey see, monkey do” manner down to their baby brothers and sisters.
However, as I work across the city, I have closely observed that not only are these babies emulating the attitudes, language and behaviour of their older siblings, but that parents are also indirectly fanning the flames that can quickly get out of control and create a downward spiral of anti-social behaviour.
For example, as I afterward spoke to the little six-year-old girl who was previously mentioned, I noticed not only her teenage demeanour but dress style, hairstyle, language style, body style and even fingernails. She was wearing her hip-riding pants that were sweeping the floor, mashed to rags. Her hair was braided in zigzag braids with a puff at the back while her fingernails appeared to be professionally manicured and beautifully airbrush designed.
As I was closely noticing these teenage traits in her, another baby boy the same age showed up with the same behaviour and attitude. He too was looking like a miniature teenager. On his left ear lobe he posed a diamond looking stud, his haircut was designed with artwork and his pants were worn a bit sagging.
It was then I realized that as parents we really don’t understand what a tangled web we weave when all they want we give.
Parents must understand that emotional, mental and physical maturation must happen naturally and that speeding up the process can lead to dire consequences. Let babies be babies and maybe they may just start behaving their age again.