Caribbean News Now!

About Us Contact Us

Countries/Territories

Jump to your country or territory of interest

Advertise with us

Reach our daily visitors from around the Caribbean and throughout the world. Click here for rates and placements.

Contribute

Submit news and opinion for publication

Subscribe

Click here to receive our daily regional news headlines by email.

Archives

Click here to browse our extensive archives going back to 2004

Also, for the convenience of our readers and the online community generally, we have reproduced the complete Caribbean Net News archives from 2004 to 2010 here.

Climate Change Watch

The Caribbean is especially vulnerable to rising sea levels brought about by global warming. Read the latest news and information here...

Follow Caribbean News Now on Twitter
Connect with Caribbean News Now on Linkedin
Instagram



News from the Caribbean:




Features
Prev    Next
Relationships: When did relationships become electronic?
Published on February 1, 2017Email To Friend    Print Version

By Dr Edrica D. Richardson

Email, Twitter, Facebook, WhatsApp, blogs (of course), and many, many others – are all part of the new and wonderful ways we can now connect with one another electronically, each with its own culture and unique set of rules. In one sense, the planet has never been more interconnected. And yet, this interconnectedness, while wonderful, has come with a cost.

edrica_richardson.jpg
Dr Edrica D. Richardson is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in multiple states in the US; and an AAMFT Approved Supervisor. Her clinical specialties include relationship issues, stress management, family conflict, and life coaching, to name a few. She works with adolescents, couples, and families in The Bahamas and the US. Visit her website at www.dredrich.com
How many of you are in text-ships; relationships that only exist through some electronic device, whether it be a cellphone, computer, or tablet. To build a successful relationship you need more human contact than text messages can give to a relationship. You will need some good old fashion QT (quality time) to learn about each other. As we know, there are many forms of miscommunication that happen via electronics; because at some point we've all had text remorse, wishing we could take back a message, but we pressed send.

Text-ships can become game-like. Many people also use text-ships to play games in relationships when they have no intention of actually taking responsibility for the feelings they arose. If you're in a good relationship, the only playing that should happen should be in the bedroom.

Can you see an immediate problem that we may encounter with your electronic relationship as opposed to your offline ones? The biggest problem is perception. "Perception is the process of attaining awareness or understanding of sensory information." So perception is about sorting and processing the information that we receive through our five senses: touch, sight, hearing, taste, smell (we can also insert a sixth sense if we want to – intuition).

Unlike the offline world where we use all five senses to gain information, when online we can only primarily use one sense to gain information with – sight. We are also very limited in our use of our sense of sight, because we can't benefit from the normal cues we pick up through non-verbal communication. We can see words that are typed, we can see someone’s avatar if they choose to post one and we can watch video or see someone through a webcam.

So clearly most of our perceptual equipment cannot be utilized in our electronic relationships. Consequently, we miss out on huge chunks of information about other people that we would normally have. Various studies have been carried out to explore how much of our communication is verbal as opposed to non-verbal.

The major disadvantage of electronic relationships and communication is that there is no body language to read. One study shows that 93% of communication is through non-verbal means (including body language) and only 7% down to verbal communication. So online, we're stuck with having to try to do all of our communicating (both listening and speaking) with 7% of the tools we would normally use.

Some Disadvantages of Electronic Relationships

1. We often don't make the effort to "check things out" properly. For instance if we're having difficulty with someone in the work place we may check out if they are having a personal problem that is impacting on their behaviour. People online rarely do this – why bother when there are a billion other people you can talk to instead?

2. There is a huge potential for misinterpretation of what people are saying and what people "mean" when they type.

3. Many people are better at expressing themselves verbally than through the written word and so are at a disadvantage electronically.

My aim in writing this was to help us all develop our awareness and understanding of the kinds of psychological hazards that we can experience in our electronic relationships, and through this awareness, either have a chance of averting problems before they arise or be able to see them for what they are afterwards.

Stimulating a person takes more than just a device; it should start between the ears. So let's start courting the mind first.
 
Reads : 2150






Click here to receive daily news headlines from Caribbean News Now!



Back...

Comments:

No comments on this topic yet. Be the first one to submit a comment.

Back...

Send us your comments!  

Send us your comments on this article. All fields are required.

For your contribution to reach us, you must (a) provide a valid e-mail address and (b) click on the validation link that will be sent to the e-mail address you provide.  If the address is not valid or you don't click on the validation link, it will be a waste of your time typing your submission because we will never see it!

Your Name:

Your Email:

(Validation required)

Comments:
Enter Code *

 


Prev    Next

 




Other Headlines:



Regional Sports: